You’re Never Out of Style with Appreciation
In Dale Carnegie’s classic “How to Win Friends and Influence People” (1936) this quote sets the stage for a simple point he’s making:
“What do you want? Not many things, but the few that you do wish, you crave with an insistence that will not be denied. Some of the things most people want include:
- Health and the preservation of life. 2. Food. 3. Sleep. 4. Money and the things money will buy. 5. Life in the hereafter. 6. Sexual gratification. 7. The well-being of our children. 8. A feeling of importance.”
It is craving number 8 in the list that he addresses in Chapter 2: “The Big Secret Of Dealing With People,” the need to feel important, the need to be appreciated.
We all want to feel appreciated, needed and important. We need to feel we belong. We’ve all needed that feeling since we were young and in grade school. Close your eyes right now. Feel the warmth that embodies you when thinking of being appreciated. Go ahead, close your eyes. I’ll wait.
Now, take that feeling and imagine what a loved one, friend, even a prospect or client would feel if you showed just how much you appreciate them. People remember those who made them feel wanted, accepted and appreciated. If you believe this, and there is no reason why you wouldn’t, then you understand what Carnegie was referring to in Chapter 2. (If you want a free copy of that chapter simply CLICK HERE.)
Creatures in Need
We human beings think we’re complicated. We think we are intricate, complex and deep. It’s really not the case. We’re simply creatures in need of a little sincere appreciation. Try it out on the next person you meet and see if it doesn’t make a difference in both of your lives. After all, I appreciate you for reading my article. You have my gratitude and my thanks.