New Year’s Resolutions Are a Myth
“I resolve to…”
Every year about this time we begin to look forward to the coming year. It’s natural to plan our year, forecast our behavior and envision results. We make resolutions to undertake and set goals to accomplish with every good intention.
As if our eyes are bigger than our stomachs at an “all you can eat” buffet, we load our resolution plates with a bit of this and some of that. We resolve to get all this “stuff” done and yet by the end of January the diet is in the trash, the financial schemes have hit the skids and by the 1st of February we return to the self pity/loathing that we never get anything done bemoaning the fact that we ever took on such a heavy burden.
Score one for the subconscious mind.
Let the Battle Begin
When we set goals or state resolutions we are putting ourselves in direct confrontation with the all powerful subconscious mind. The mere utterance of anything the conscious mind wants or desires to have happen the subconscious mind goes to work. Unbeknownst to us the forces of opposition have already dug in their heels and our wants and desires are challenged.
If the subconscious mind was in agreement we would already have what we want or desire. When we put our foot down to make something happen in the face of negative beliefs or limiting thoughts, we are up against THE most powerful obstruction known to man and womankind – the subconscious mind.
Focus on a By-Product
So, what’s there to do about the power of the subconscious mind so that our intentions for the coming year are met. Surely we don’t want to face another December scratching our heads and wondering why little was accomplished?
An effective tool is to bypass the limiting or negative subconscious belief and place your focus on something that is the by-product of what you want, not specifically what you want. By focusing on a by-product, something your subconscious mind has not formed a negative or limiting belief, it is less likely you will find yourself confronting a negative or limiting belief. And, by obtaining the by-product you must necessarily have obtained the thing you wanted.
For instance, if you want to lose weight you might focus on the new clothing you’ll fit into, visualizing an image of yourself x number of sizes smaller. By focusing your attention on a smaller you there is no dealing with existing beliefs about your weight loss.
If you are looking to make extra money in the coming year focus your attention on the blessings that extra money is going to provide, the charities that will benefit, the freedom around being debt free, the joy of riding in the new car. The possibilities can be endless, just as long as you are not focusing on making extra money.
The New Year is a wonderful time to reflect and to plan ahead. Make this year’s desires and wants something special so that next December you’ll be grinning from ear to ear.
Happy New Year!